I needed this article today and thought you might too! The ability to manage our reactions to life is a skill we can develop. The goal is to master our reactions so that the impact of the "second zingers" is minimized. While I have not been a follower of Bryan Robinson's work and thought leadership, this article really resonated, and I look forward to exploring his work.
Instead of pushing away the unpleasant feeling, ignoring it or steamrolling over it, the key is to acknowledge it with something like, “Hello frustration, I see you’re active today.” This simple recognition relaxes the second zinger so you can face the real hardship—the first zinger—with more clarity and ease. Once you develop the skill to separate first and second zingers, you realize you don’t have to react every time you get zinged.