Interesting premise here: we think we're self-aware, and really we're not. Mostly we're looking in the mirror, rather than actually reflecting on how and why we react the way we do.

The upside of this is pretty significant. If I'm self-aware, I can achieve a better understanding of how someone is reacting to me, without getting defensive. This is useful in business as well as in our personal lives.

The key here is to spend some time looking at what makes you tick, and why you react the way you do. From that, you can build not only a good picture of yourself, but you can begin to forge relationships that have a solid premise.