We live in a fast-paced world and usually we are "operating in the gray." We rarely have complete information. And, well you know, we do have rules of the road, structure and you can say it: PROCESS. Well, so, is it what you do or when you do it? Let's see what some counseling experts have to say. This will leave you hanging, as it's, you guessed it, incomplete. But, worth contemplating.
When I was learning how to be a counselor in graduate school, there was a phrase we used quite a bit: “It’s not what you do… It’s what you do with what you do that counts.” The person who originally coined the phrase was named Jack Corazzini. He worked at the Virginia Commonwealth University (VCU) Counseling Center for many years. The Key is What You Do Next The idea was this: When you were counseling, something unexpected might happen, or you might make a mistake. Instead of getting anxious or beating yourself up, the key is what you do next. What can you learn about what happened? What can you learn about your client? What can you learn about yourself? What can you take with you moving forward? This was a great lesson for counseling, but I think it’s also a great lesson for life.